Learning to say no
Last weekend, it donned on me that it is ok to say no.
Example- I was invited to a baby shower for a 2nd cousin of my husband who I am never met. She is 18 and the invitation gave specifics on what to buy. The shower is from 7:pm-8:30pm on a Wed. night about 45 minutes from our house. I am choosing to say to no that.
Example- My uncle asked me to design a poster for tennis tournament. He gave me a week to get it done but offered a small amount of details about the event. While I did it this time, I am choosing to say no to any other requests like this in the future.
Call it being a bitch or being assertive but there are certain things I just don't have time for anymore. I am choosing to spend my time in ways that are meaningful and productive to me and my immediate family, not in ways that seem obligitory. No apologies here.
Example- I was invited to a baby shower for a 2nd cousin of my husband who I am never met. She is 18 and the invitation gave specifics on what to buy. The shower is from 7:pm-8:30pm on a Wed. night about 45 minutes from our house. I am choosing to say to no that.
Example- My uncle asked me to design a poster for tennis tournament. He gave me a week to get it done but offered a small amount of details about the event. While I did it this time, I am choosing to say no to any other requests like this in the future.
Call it being a bitch or being assertive but there are certain things I just don't have time for anymore. I am choosing to spend my time in ways that are meaningful and productive to me and my immediate family, not in ways that seem obligitory. No apologies here.
posted by lynnm at
10:39 AM
4 Comments:
My husband and I learned the hard way about having to be tough on saying No to family. When we first moved back into the area, we felt we had to spend a lot of time with my in-laws because we had lived so far away from them and they didn't get to see a lot of our first son. Then we learned that even though you live close, you don't have to be quite so "close". I think you've made a good decision. :)
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Anonymous, at 12:36 PM
It happens as we mature, I guess. I just said no to being in a musical (unheard of!) because my children are finally going to school full time this fall and I really have been looking forward to the empty house. Sometimes we know what's right to turn down.
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Wendy Stackhouse, at 5:52 PM
Yes and no are great words provided you don't form a habit with one or other of them.
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leigh, at 1:32 PM
Good for you!!
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LadyLungDoc, at 12:39 PM
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